coping with loss, change, & transition

We all experience loss, change, and transition differently through our lives. Sometimes it’s sudden and unexpected, sometimes it’s a long and drawn-out journey. It can be needed and wanted, or dreaded and devastating. Perhaps it can be some combination of all those factors.  

One of the ways I’ve learned to cope with transition in all its forms is through dancing and making dance videos. Even in the most intense periods of my father’s illness or during uncertainties in relationships and career matters, I could always take a few moments to help move the energy through me. I could express something beyond words and in doing so find connection to something greater. It felt comforting and freeing, in the midst of the pain and struggle that was happening.


As you think about your ways of coping and moving with changing energy, I want to turn your attention to an amazing person and friend of mine, Mark Chabus. When I read his book Remembering Your Spirit, about his process and transformation after the death of his girlfriend on 9/11, I resonated so much with his message and knew how powerful it could be in helping so many people. What particularly resonated with me was the creative angle his journey took: from leaving his training in psychology to pursue his passion for cooking, to throwing himself into the world of Improv, voice lessons, and even dancing.


In the interview I’m about to share with you, Mark and I chat about loss, love, spirituality and creative energy, with the intention of bringing forward gems of wisdom and reminders that will be helpful for you on your journey.


One thing we surely agree on is that using creativity to deal with the ups and downs of life is a crucial element - and not just for “artists” and “naturally creative people,” but for EVERYONE! (Because yes, everyone is inherently creative.)

Click here to purchase Mark's book and find out more about his offerings!


Our discussion winds in all kinds of amazing directions. Skip to 16:40 to hear specifically about dealing with loss of a loved one and the main message of Mark’s book.


Share your stories with us in the comments below and pass this on to anyone you know who could use a little inspiration through transition.


My heart goes out to you for all that you have lost, all that you have yet to receive, and all the beauty you make just by being you.

with deep love,


About Mark Chabus & Remembering Your Spirit:

MarkChabus1At twenty-three years old, Mark Chabus was pursuing his passion for cooking at the French Culinary Institute in New York City. His life came to a screeching halt when his girlfriend perished inside the World Trade Center on the morning of September 11, 2001. Chabus’ inspiring story describes the emotional pain he endured as well as an eight-year journey toward healing and self-discovery. He recounts a spiritual awakening that occurred as a result of the persistent communication of her spirit. Chabus takes readers on a voyage from heartache and suffering to a place of strength and harmony.

Remembering Your Spirit Cover-page-001In Remembering Your Spirit, Chabus shares his evidential stories which provide proof that the spirits of our deceased loved ones do assuredly survive death. He also shares how this horrific tragedy became the very catalyst for recalling his soul’s purpose. Through his captivating true stories, Chabus provides hope, healing and inspiration for those struggling through life’s difficult times.


Click here to purchase Remembering Your Spirit!