end of year review: what to do before you set new goals

IMAG33543e9c04I know, I know. The new year is almost starting. You're filled with hope as you imagine everything you'll do better, different, newer, bigger... The empires you'll build... the books you'll write...the places you'll go.... STOP.

Don't go there. Don't pile on resolutions and compare your 2013 self-to-be with your 2012 not-good-enough-self. I'm not saying don't dream, I'm just saying do things in order: recognize how awesome you are before moving on to the next thing.

It's time to celebrate your successes and honor your creations! (Even if you think you could've done better or different or newer or bigger, just put those thoughts aside, because I promise you they aren't your true self talking.)

This was a big year.

Here's what you need to do:

  • Get out your notebook, pour yourself a glass of champagne, and flip through your 2012 calendar or journal month by month, jotting down the highlights and proud moments. (Play fun music and dance throughout = optional, but recommended)
  • Let yourself recognize that a new friendship is just as big a celebration (if not bigger) than a job promotion. See grandeur in the small things. Whatever happened happened because you created it. And in my book, that's something to celebrate.
  • Know, too, that the Full Moon is on your side today and this weekend as you go through this process. (For more guidance on that, check out this awesome article by one of my favorite astrologers April Elliott Kent)
  • And please report in below and let me know how it goes! I'd love to hear your celebrations so that I can happy dance with you!

This has been a huge year for me, and I really want to thank YOU for being here to make much of it possible.  When I made my "Highlights of 2012" list yesterday, I realized how much of what happened month after month was a result of a simple thing that happened in January: starting this blog and meeting all of you. I made a decision to make Fridays a day of focused creativity for me and thought it would be cool if other people wanted to join in. And you did. I had moments of doubt, I had personal struggles, I had growing pains throughout, but I kept going anyway.

Here are a few highlights from my list (in no particular order):

  • launching and re-launching a new website
  • leading 4 amazing women through the first round of my coaching program
  • meeting Renee at Breakin Boundaries and hosting workshops there
  • joining the Healing Well at Lucky Lotus Yoga
  • performing in 23 Skidoo (which involved literally dancing on Broadway and flashing my neon orange undies to the city)
  • organizing a group performance of Thriller in which I humbly danced as MJ
  • meeting beautiful new people and having old and dear ones come back into my life in new ways
  • getting email thanks and updates from many of you, knowing that something from Creative Fridays inspired you to take a step towards your own creative visions

In a world where there seem to be more tragedies happening, where the struggles can seem to outweigh the joys (well, maybe only if you watch the news regularly), what I know for sure is that creation and self-expression are what heal wounds, spread love, and form community. You might not be able to change the past, but you can process your feelings and experiences in the present and then give something back to the world with your unique signature on it. Something that will feel good to you, and perhaps inspire another.

I can't wait to see what else we'll create in 2013. But first, let's relish in the present moment and give thanks for all we are right now.