I hung up the phone with my writing coach and belly-flopped onto my bed in a fit of crying. Ugly crying. The kind of crying that feels like a monster has been hiding out in your belly for years.
“Shit. I’m really doing this. I’m really going to publish a book. I’m really going to share a message I believe in and risk being ridiculed, criticized, who-does-she-think-she-izzed.”
I realized that the excuses I had - “I’m not big enough. I’m not ready enough. My business isn’t stable enough...” - no longer held enough weight to hold me back from taking action.
It felt terrifying and vulnerable. Hence, the tears.
The next day, I was the one in the coach’s shoes with a private coaching client of my own. It felt like I was listening to myself from a day prior -
This client has evolved so much over the last few years - from not dancing at all, to bringing it into her life in a consistent way and sharing it. Lately she’s been making YouTube dance tutorials and has been feeling stuck on the messaging behind them - Why should others watch and dance along? What makes them different? How does she keep sharing and growing her work?
Through the questions I asked and holding a safe space for her to speak her truth, she shared parts of her story and the WHY behind this project - things she’s never said aloud before.
It was powerful.
Towards the end of the session I asked her how she was feeling and she said, “Like I want to cry. Now that I’m clear on this and I’m believing less and less in the negative voices in my head, I actually have to get out there and do it. I have to live fully. There’s no more hiding.”
[cue the tears.]
Oh shit. That.
When the excuses aren’t real anymore. When it’s just you and your art, your work, your calling.
There will be a time when you just have to do it. Your busy schedule, your lack of money, the small size of your mailing list, your skin breaking out way more than usual and fearing how it will look on camera… all those excuses will stop mattering as much when you really connect to your WHY.
And then you will cry.
Just like I did. Just like my client did.
You will cry it out so hard and then you’ll wipe away the snot and tears and feel a power surging from deep in your belly, up through your heart, radiating out of your throat and head, and then you will do it. Ready or not.
The tears just make space for the courage you didn’t know you have.
Let it flow and welcome to the club.
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Do you have a project or a message you’ve been wanting to get out there?
Are your fears & excuses getting in the way of you creating what you truly want to?
You don’t have to go at it alone. Stewing in your own head is only making the situation worse. (Really. Stop stewing in it.)
I’m here to help. There are a handful of spots open to talk to me 1-1 and explore -through my unique style of guidance - how I could support you in breaking through the fear and stuckness to move into your vision in a confident, free, and fun way.
to the tears that set you free,